From what little data I've heard, I suspect that the experience of lonely gay nerdboys is congruent with the straight case in most respects, though not in all. (Some have the additional problem of being gay in a place where very few gay men are out, there's a powerful stigma, and misjudging someone's orientation can be extremely dangerous.)
Whereas lonely young straight women primarily become convinced that they're too ugly to be loved, because they're supposed to be the pursued ones and being pursued traditionally comes from physical attractiveness. It stands to reason that gay men would get a little of both complexes.
I'm not sure what happens with gay women because the ones I know often didn't come out until they got older, which confounds the issue.
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Date: 2005-07-27 06:30 am (UTC)Whereas lonely young straight women primarily become convinced that they're too ugly to be loved, because they're supposed to be the pursued ones and being pursued traditionally comes from physical attractiveness. It stands to reason that gay men would get a little of both complexes.
I'm not sure what happens with gay women because the ones I know often didn't come out until they got older, which confounds the issue.